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Struggling with Perversion and Lustful Thoughts

November 4, 2013

So lets be real.  This is a struggle that a lot of people have but it’s rarely talked about. I personally struggled with this and I know how frustrating it can be to be pursuing purity and a relationship with God while constantly being thrown off by lustful thoughts.

Now many times, lustful thoughts are a result of our own environments. The music we listen to, the things we watch, the conversations we have, all have the potential to plant lustful seeds in our hearts and minds. Still, sometimes this isn’t always the case. Sometimes you may be doing good at guarding your heart from the wrong things and actively pursuing God, but these thoughts still come.

Recently a lot of people, especially women, have spoken to me about this area in their life which they can’t seem to get a hold on. Sometimes it’s because Satan will randomly put perverse thoughts in their head out of nowhere. Why does he do this? Because he wants to pull you away from God. Lustful thoughts are like bait to lure you into sin. If you latch on to them and indulge instead of casting them down, your thoughts will eventually manifest into the present and lead to things like masturbation, fornication, adultery, addiction to pornography, etc.

(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; 2 Corinthians 10: 4-5 (KJV)

Sin separates you from God, especially sexual sins. If you are actively committing these sins, you need to repent and be reconciled to God. Thoughts lead to actions and if you don’t cast down lustful thoughts, they will eventually lead to sin. Here’s what the Lord says about sexual sins in 1st Corinthians 6:18, “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” (NIV)

There are different ways in which you can flee. You can literally “flee” or you can take advantage of the many ways of escape that the Lord provides such as quoting and meditating on the scripture as your form of weaponry, praying to God for help in the moment, calling on the name of Jesus, or consciously making the decision to focus your thoughts on other things. The bible says in Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” (KJV)

This verse is what got me through during the time when I had been really struggling with impure thoughts. I kept it written on an index card and would pull it out and recite it whenever a thought rose up in my head. Sometimes all you need is just to recite the word, the scripture. Other times, you may be in a situation where simply reciting a bible verse won’t be enough and you have to take literal action.

One time during the beginning of my husband and I’s engagement, we were together late at night and got a little too close. He got so convicted out of nowhere, jumped up, picked up his keys with these wide open eyes and terrified look on his face, and I started screaming “Flee fornication baby! Flee fornication!” He was out the door and before I could even finish the phrase, he was gone.

Now when we look back we can kind of laugh at the situation but at that moment it was so serious. He literally needed to flee! I wouldn’t have had the time to pull out an index card with bible verses to recite. It was too heated in that moment. After that situation we had to have a talk and set some stronger boundaries in order to really keep our commitment of staying pure before marriage.

Sin and lustful thoughts are not worth being separated from God for. Nothing is worth being separated from God’s presence. In His presence there is fullness of joy, love, peace, and freedom. You don’t want to be separated from that. He want’s you to draw near to Him so that He can draw near to you. He has things He want’s to share with you. He has secrets to tell you. He wants to fellowship with you. Why would you let anything, even as little as a tiny thought keep you away from Him?

No–nothing can separate your from the love of God. The bible does say this in Romans 8:38-39. But God cannot dwell where there is an abundance of sin either.He is HOLY and we are called to be Holy as He is Holy (1 Peter 1:15). I hope that this message encourages you to keep striving to dig deeper and flee distractions and sexual immorality.

– Karolyne

 

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10 Comments

  • Reply Purity Driven Life November 5, 2013 at 4:43 am

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  • Reply Alieshia November 6, 2013 at 6:14 am

    I definitely cracked a smile & giggled on the “Flee fornication baby!” part… but that’s REAL. I’ve never ONCE in my life before Christ (I didn’t know Christ personally but I knew what He commanded) OR in my backslidden years thought to use the word that boldly and out loud. The truth is, you can push your Bible aside and you can give into impure thoughts in silence but SAYING the word is powerful. I definitely appreciate you & your husband’s decision to share that example. Many people don’t realize that boundaries are needed AND that couples who know the Lord can still stumble and/or may have the need to reassess their boundaries. Thank you for this! Reading the next post!

    • Reply Karolyne Roberts November 6, 2013 at 11:12 pm

      Lol yup! It’s so serious and even us Christians go through it. You need to speak it girl! Glad you enjoyed!

  • Reply Anonymous November 11, 2013 at 3:28 pm

    When you say you used to be a lesbian, do you mean that you came to christianity on your own? What do you think about “therapy” for gay and lesbians? My best friend is one but I don’t try to condemn her. I listen and pray that she finds her way…

    • Reply Karolyne Roberts November 11, 2013 at 4:08 pm

      Hey!

      I grew up in the church, I did not actively pursue lesbianism but I was so confused about my sexuality so that when the opportunity arose to participate in sexually immoral acts with other women, I did.

      Lesbianism and homosexuality a lot of times stems from a root of confusion of who someone really is. I didn’t know myself. I let my experiences and encounters define me. The more I had homosexual experiences, the more I thought I was homosexual. Then when I began having experiences with boys, I was more confused and thought I might be bi-sexual.

      Then, when I finally had an encounter and experience with Jesus, I learned who I was in Him, and my identity in Him has been most consistent because God is unchanging and He’s always there, which I am now aware of.

      I finally came to know Jesus because all of the people who loved me, prayed for my salvation, were examples, and led me in the right direction.

      I would say keep praying, prayer is powerful and does wonders. Pray against confusion. Pray she has an encounter with God. Pray that she comes to find who she is in Christ. Also pray that you can be a good example for her as well as far as your own individual walk with Christ.

      1 Timothy 4:12 “12 Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.”

      Hope that answered you question,
      xoxoxo

  • Reply Isabella December 17, 2013 at 4:43 am

    Hi Karolyne, GOD bless you and your King, you are both such a huge inspiration to tons of young couples and singles.
    This story took me on a walk down memory lane. My fiancé and I decided in 2011 to wait until marriage, at first it was difficult but by GOD’s grace things got easier to deal with. We started by having a married couple in our fellowship that we could be accountable to,then we got more involved in serving in the church and developing ourselves spiritually, this helped to put the fear of GOD in us which is always a good caution and also helped us understand the destructive dangers of premarital sex.
    We now have a long distance relationship,by long I mean we are in different continents, lol! But GOD is faithful, we have grown more spiritually apart in these few months than in all the years we were together. We love the growth but miss each other so much, we constantly remind each other to enjoy this process and in time we would also enjoy the promise. Sooo excited for that blessed day.
    There was a time we got so close and I snapped outta it, another time he snapped outta it. Then he set serious boundaries that made me cry at first but I was thankful later. His standards and boundaries are so high now that when I was leaving his continent for months he didn’t even kiss me. 🙂 he just hugged me and prAyed a heartfelt prayer for me. Which was a zillion times better than any kiss. We decided the next time we kiss it would be on our wedding day, hopefully in March 2014. I pray for GOD’s strength. 🙂

    • Reply Isabella Emike December 17, 2013 at 4:53 am

      Hi Karolyne, I sent this to my fiancé and thought you should know what’s being said about you. For extra encouragement and to keep being used by GOd for HIS glorious work with the children of men. You are blessed.

      My King,

      She and her husband also waited till they married and they are now married and she shares messages on respecting ur husband, avoiding unwanted male attention, the dangers of sex in the dream etc her words and supporting bible passages have really helped in my spiritual growth and helping me understand my worth as a woman. GOD bless Karolyne and her King.

  • Reply Isabella December 17, 2013 at 4:52 am

    Hi Karolyne, I sent this to my fiancé and thought you should know what’s being said about you. For extra encouragement and to keep being used by GOd for HIS glorious work with the children of men. You are blessed.

    My King,

    She and her husband also waited till they married and they are now married and she shares messages on respecting ur husband, avoiding unwanted male attention, the dangers of sex in the dream etc her words and supporting bible passages have really helped in my spiritual growth and helping me understand my worth as a woman. GOD bless Karolyne and her King.

  • Reply Daniel Emmanuel November 25, 2016 at 5:34 pm

    Hi Karolyne,

    This is so true! There is only one way and that is to FLEE! Imagine Joseph having to quote a scripture when faced with Portiphar’s wife! He would have fallen like a pack of cards! Philippians 4:8 is also the verse the Lord gave me for my thoughts!

    Thanks for sharing!

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